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He was 40, I was 15 when he took my virginity - Sex not so good anymore


Let me just get straight to the point I'm a 23 year old young girl seeing a soon to be 48 year old man. We have been going strong for eight years now he's the guy who took away my virginity at the age 15, he was 40 at da time. But the sex isn't so good now. I'm thinking of ending it.

Wat do u think Mr. Proppafix?

At 15 yrs old, you should not have been having sex and worse, this 40-yr-old man should have known better than to be having sex with you. However, your relationship has been continuing and you are now an adult - so ask yourself why you were in this relationship in the first place. Compare the good times you have had and all the things he has done and continues to do for you against just the sex not being good. Also, ask yourself if the sex life is deteriorating because you are no longer as interested as you used to be. I would not suggest that you leave a man just because of the sex. I would encourage you to "get back to basics" with him. Tell him all the things that he used to do to excite you, to make you enjoy sex and want to have more sex, start to "try out" new, exciting ways and places to have sex. Be creative, be adventurous which might help to put the spice back in your sex life.

There is also the fact that there may be trouble in the future as you are just 23 yrs old. In another 10 yrs when you would have reached your sexual prime, he will be almost 60 yrs old but with the help of sex enhancing drugs, it could still work if you are still interested then as I know men that are way into their 70s still having an active sex life. Good luck and all the best.

All the best- this is my advice young lady - tek it or leave it.

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Comments (12)


Posted by Can | June 30, 2009 11:35 AM

Alright, seeing that u r now an adult I'm not going to even say much about how wrong it was for him to be intimate with u at 15. However, it's clear to me y u r no longer sexually interested in him. When u were a child (15) u didn't know any better. If he was good, bad or indifferent u wouldn't have really known, & that's he was with u in the first place. U see, these old men know dem can't satisfy grown women, so dem pick on children who think they r all that in bed. But now u r grown u realise seh him can't fuck worth a damn & that's ur issue now.

Boy it sticky still cuz u've been with him for 8 yrs & I'm sure he must have helped u in some way. I'm still trying not to judge the situation from u were a child. But I think u need to understand that the man is much older than u, & with ageing comes sexuality issues (in both men & women). If u mean him any good u would try & identify what the problem is & work with him on it cuz u done give him ur innocence already. Viagra & whole heap of other sex drugs deh bout so work with the man, cuz mi sure seh yuh neva did a fuck him at 15 fi nutten.

Posted by Anonymous | June 30, 2009 12:31 PM

GOD1 U NUH EASY x how u know seh she neva did deh f**k the man fi nutten x anuh evi body ave sense enuh but mee picture that still how the hell a 15yr old minor end up with a 40yr grey tone man eeeeh ansa dat!!!! 1 of dem must offense still but babes u cant seh u neva si seh di man su start grey 15yrs hmmm am 20 n mi nah f**k nuh 15yr old u msi r*ss maad!!!15yr can tek ***** a 40 year old man **** ansa dat check u facts babes

Posted by Anonymous | June 30, 2009 12:39 PM

jah know star u nuh easy how u mean she neva a f**k the man fi nutten ee, mee picture dat how the hell a 40yr old man fi a f**k a 15yr old girl eeee ansa dat fi mi cause mi nuh know n babes mi wa know wa u si pon dat deh bl**dclaat man deh hhmmmm 1 a unuh must blindfi real babes check u facts at 15yrs old u can tek a 40yr old man c*ck mm 15 eee1 am 20 n mi nah f**k nuh 15yr old u maad she a minor dadda man like unuh nuh fi live a tall go c how u forst up u 10inc inna the needle eye deh now a dat u loove copper u ppl tell mi how mi sound ok

Posted by Nelly | June 30, 2009 12:48 PM

@Can - i agree with you. one of the reason why older men draw fi young girl is that SOME men dont know how to please experience women, so them gu to the young girls that will tek anything and thinks its the best.

My next question is, how she know the s^x nuh good anymore? is she getting something else out there to compare it with, lol..

I wont even touch the AGE difference cause it down gwaan bad already.

Posted by Protina | June 30, 2009 4:58 PM

the thing is she a tek another man an dat sex better suh she waan cut

40-15=25 wow!!!!!!!!!!!
thats all i can say

Posted by barrynoodle | June 30, 2009 9:43 PM

Da bwoy deh fi guh a cow prison.

Posted by Tacious is a GOOD LOOK | June 30, 2009 11:22 PM

Okay, so its true, it is a sticky situation but damn girl, you dont owe this grandpa a damn thing! If you werent consenting, him taking your virginity at 15 [what the hell were you thinking?!] would be considered as statutory rape! If you want to leave him, then please leave him. Because he will reach his sexual decline sooner rather than later, and you're no longer going to be dealing with a stallion, but with a mule. Still, I think no twenty something year old should be with someone dramatically older than them. Girl, your twenties stage is supposed be the best time of your life, try spending it with someone within your age range and see how the sex goes. Thats my opinion.

Posted by Anonymous | July 1, 2009 2:58 PM

girl u have a big heart because i am 22 and i cant even have sex with someone who is 30 years old good luck to you and thet relationship

Posted by diomondeyes | July 1, 2009 8:04 PM

What can i say the same thing happen to me. At the age of 15 i started dating a 38 year old man then at 16 i did not want him anymore. He wanted to take my life because i wanted to leave, he did so many bad things to me "beleive me i have to say i am scarred for life". My parent had to put me in protective custody in the country until my older sister took me away to canada. What these older men dont understand is that when these young girls reach to a certain age they are going to want a man as young and vibrant as themselves. My advice to you is do what you think is best for you, because at the end of the day you are the one who is going to have to live with it.

Posted by sexyllisha | July 1, 2009 9:54 PM

@can and nelly its true older men take younger cause they know no woman their age wants them

ok young girl here is the problem you reach that age when you friend dem start talking bout them sxual experiences and you a wonder what dem a talk bout (assuming you never cheat) so now you want experiment lol. But as messed up as you age difference situation is remember a good man is hard to find and before you dash whey old fi new think aout what type a crosses you might end up pick up

Posted by Talia | July 3, 2009 9:52 PM

@sexylisha, wha kinda man u tink him coulda be fi f**k roun wid likkle pickney?? and i'm guessing him nah seh nuttn otherwise wit how him treat her or him personality beacause she would have considered those things instead of just looking at the stale f**k.. i'm more than sure it's not just the f**k di gyal a talk bout.gyal just need to cut, period. as a child she neva have sense to know what a good man or a good f**k is all about and she still might not know since she's been limited (assuming) to this one man. she need fi free up harself so she can find both of those things in another man..

Posted by Lisa | July 8, 2009 8:36 PM

In most cases these young girls are looking for a fgather figure so the mature men shouldn't look to have intimate relationship it is a shame what some of these young girls have to do to survive and then some are just bad

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