"The sex is so painful, it’s like I can feel him in my belly bottom".
Dear Mr proppafix,
Please don’t laugh at me when I relate my problem to you, but it is really very ironic. I am an educated young lady who lives and works in the corporate area. I recently got in a relationship with a successful, caring and understanding young man and everything was fine until we started having sex. He has a huge penis - the first time I saw it I was in total shock. I had no idea that he was walking around with that weapon in his pants.
At first, I thought I would get use to it after having sex couple of times with him but it has been more than three months now and it’s the same tribulation I am going through.
The irony of the situation is that I used to always jokingly tell my girl friends that I didn’t want any small d*ck man but it seems that I have taken on more than I can handle. I love him dearly, but I am so afraid of him in the bedroom and even though he is so caring and careful with me - the sex is so painful, it’s like I can feel him in my belly bottom. The first time we had sex I had to see a doctor the day after because I thought he had shifted my womb.
Our sex problem has led me to resort to giving him oral sex instead of letting him penetrate me, but he told me that there is no compromise to the ‘real’ thing.
Sometimes I develop an argument so I would have a valid reason not to have sex with him because I am not getting any pleasure, my mind is only on the pain. Even though I love him, at times I think of giving up on the relationship because it would be unfair to have someone love you and you are not able to please them a hundred percent.
Mr proppafix I am in a real dilemma, although it might sound a bit cliche, but this guy is everything that a girl could ever want in a man. What should I do? I am confused.
I think your problem is one that can easily work out - literally! First, let me recommend that you purchase a lubricant called Lubrigel, which can be found in most pharmacies across Jamaica. It should make sex a lot easier and more enjoyable for both of you.
Secondly - how about seeking the advice of a sex therapist where both of you can express the problems that you are facing. It seems that you really love your partner and if the relationship is good, then I think that you should work on the problem instead of letting it destroy what you have.
I think you should also confront your boyfriend about the problem instead of developing arguments with him for no reason. You are only on the verge of wrecking your relationship - young woman if he really loves you then he will understand the agony you are going through.
That is my advice young lady – tek it or leave it
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