Dear Mr Proppafix
I am having a serious problem with my marriage and I would love if you could give me your take on the situation. My husband and I have been married for three years now and we have enjoyed an excellent relationship up until a few months ago. We have never had a problem with discussing our feelings with each other, which I think is why our relationship has been so good.
The problem is - a few months ago, my husband came in from work heated for sex. This time however I was on my period and when I told him, he said something that I never thought he would say to me. He said that he wanted me to go down on him since he could not get the thing that he really wanted. I was a bit shocked at first because he has never brought any argument like that to me before.
I didn’t do it at the time but for days after my mind was still on the whole situation and I thought that It would be fun for us to go down on each other. When I suggested this to him, he became angry, said men were not meant to do those things, and women were because it is the only way we can please our man when seeing period. He claims that I should do it because he doesn't want to cheat on me when he is horny and I am unavailable to please him.
Mr proppafix, I couldn’t believe that he could reason something out like that because it’s unfair to me. Since the whole argument, our sex life has deteriorated because he has been pressuring me to do it to him whenever I am seeing my period and I have been refusing. I would have probably done it if he didn’t talk all that bullsh*t about women were designed to give head!
I don’t know what I am going to do about this whole situation because I can’t afford for something as stupid as this to wreck our marriage- pleases I would love some of your advice.
I am with you all the way for not performing oral sex on him. Nothing is wrong with married couples going down on each other, from once they are not exploring on anyone else out-a-road. However, the fact that your husband believed it’s a only to do women thing then he’s dead wrong.
You mentioned in your letter that you cannot afford for something as stupid as this to wreck you marriage, but I don’t think you should blame yourself for your husband’s one way thought of oral sex. He’s the one who is tearing down the walls of the relationship because of his selfish behavior.
I am going to be honest, there is not much I can to say to you - the answers to your marriage are cemented in your husband’s mind.
69 is the password to his wish. That is my advice young lady- "tek it or leave it"
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