Hi Mr. ProppaFix - I am a well educated woman in a good job. I used to laugh at people that wrote to these advice columns, but I think that you do a really good job when it comes on to giving good advice. I have found myself in a real jam and I was wondering if you could help me out because I have nobody else that I can chat with face to face about my business. bisexual
I have been married to my husband for three years and we courted for five years before that so I thought I knew him but apparently, there were things that I didn’t know. The problems all started about two years into our marriage when certain things became apparent.
We have a family friend that my husband and I knew before we got married. I would to believe that they are only best friends as they spent a lot of time together and they even worked at the same company. The first sign of any problems happened when my husband proposed to me and at the time, I could not understand why his friend stopped coming round to the house as he used to. My husband said that they had a little conflict and were no longer on speaking terms. I accepted his explanation and thought nothing of it as the best of friends have conflicts from time to time.
Couple of days after I was doing some chores around the house and I found that my husband had left his phone and gone out with his friend. I have never had any reason to doubt his loyalty to me in any way, but for some strange reason - I decided to have a look at his text messages and I was shocked at what I found. There was a message in his phone that was saying that the person missed him and how long they haven’t been able to make love at their favorite spot in such a long time. As you can imagine I was so upset and I really didn’t know what to do. There was no name attached to the text. So I private my number and dialed and to my surprise - a man answered the phone. At first, I couldn’t believe what I was hearing and I didn’t want to believe so I hung up the phone without saying anything. I called my closest sister later that day, she called the number and got the same person, and later we found out that it was my husband’s best friend.
I am confused as to what I should do. It feels like I am stuck in an episode of the twilight zone, but it is actually my life. I confronted him about the text the next day and after breaking down in tears, he finally confessed to me that he has always been bisexual and he and his friend have been living a double life since high school days. He said that he loves me, but this is just how he was born and he only got married because I was pressuring him into it and he didn’t want his parents to be suspicious.
Mr. Proppafix I am in hell right now because so many things are running through my mind. We have two kids and I don’t know what is going to happened to our marriage knowing that my husband is a fag and I can’t stand to look at him. I haven’t eaten since I found out and I am starting to get sick and my children are sensing that there is something wrong.
I desperately await your response
I am really sorry to here that your marriage has turned out like this. I am always disappointed when marriages turn sour and in this case, there is no coming back. I think that you should leave the dirty bastard because he lied to you in the worse way possible. How could he want to use you as a cover for his homosexual life style? If he wants to be gay - then he needs to go and do just that instead of pretending to be straight in the public’s eyes and gay behind closed doors. Behavior like this should be punishable by law.
I am only glad that you found out what was happening before it was too late. You can still leave him and move on to bigger and better things. Find a man that is playing for one team, not both.
I am also encouraging you to pay your doctor a visit and get the necessary checkups because you might never know of the various diseases that you might contracted from his filthy lifestyle.
Leave this man now- that is my advice young woman – tek it or leave it.
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